The coaching conversation that wasn’t ‘coaching’
Sometimes the most powerful coaching moments happen when we’re not trying to coach at all.
In a recent conversation with Jason, what started as a casual catch-up transformed into a masterclass in how coaching naturally unfolds. Let me share what I learned.
The art of deep listening
True coaching isn’t about having a script – it’s about following the energy of the conversation while maintaining clear direction. Notice how our discussion flowed:
- From surface-level updates to deep personal dreams
- From present challenges to future visions
- From professional goals to life ambitions
The RAFT framework in action
Remember the RAFT framework I often share? (Results, Actions, Feelings, Thoughts)? Here’s how it naturally emerged in our conversation:
- Results: Jason’s vision of himself at 60
- Actions: His commitment to measuring what matters
- Feelings: Acknowledging the vulnerability in the process
- Thoughts: Shifting from short-term goals to decade-long vision
Beyond the “coach” label
Something fascinating emerged in our talk – the power of coaching without the label. As Jason beautifully put it, he doesn’t want to be called a coach, but he values what coaching can do.
True “coaching” often happens in the spaces between formal sessions.
The real work
The most powerful coaching moments happen when:
- We create space for vulnerability
- Dreams are acknowledged and nurtured
- Small shifts lead to big transformations
- Labels matter less than impact
Watch the full session with Jason
Your moment of truth
What could change in your conversations if you focused less on being ‘right’ and more on being genuinely curious?
Your journey
Visit CraigGillham.com to:
- Learn more about the RAFT framework
- Discover how to have coaching conversations without the formal label
- Access tools for transformational dialogue
Remember: Sometimes, the best coaching happens when we’re just being genuinely curious about another person’s journey.
Until next time,
Craig
